Tips on Masturbating for Women

By Ann Andriani All Sex Guide

As I have said before, there is no right or wrong way to do it . As long as it feels good and you aren’t going to harm yourself, it’s okay. Pleasure is the goal and however you get there is perfect. So this article is written mostly for the women out there who are curious about masturbating, but just don’t know where to begin.

First of all, set up a comfortable environment for yourself. If you’re going to use toys, get them and your lube out and near the play area. I love to read erotica, but not long novels or romance novels. I love the short, dirty stories. They have a little bit of a plot to get into, but then it gets to the good stuff, the sex...and there's so many details describing the sex that I can easily picture it in my mind and feel it happening to my body that I am immediately ready to pleasure myself. These stories easily bring me into the world of fantasy and make me forget about everything around me. I would have to say that I've really enjoyed books from Pretty Things Press, like Naughty Stories from A to Z .

I also enjoy watching an erotic movie. Watching a movie alllows both hands to be free to wander, I don't have to hold on to a book. Some movies have a heavier storyline that sucks me into the fantasy world and makes the sex scenes that much better. I also enjoy hearing the sound of sex, the actors and actresses moaning and talking dirty, that really gets me hot too.

If you're ability to visualize past sexual encounters, is strong, you may just want to turn on some music that will help frame that memory and get yourself off that way. While I have some great memories to pull from, my ability to vividly visualize them for masturbation isn't that strong. So it's not one of my techniques for masturbating, but it might be yours and if it is, good for you. Basically, whatever gets you in the mood will help you do it.

Here are some different areas to stimulate when masturbating.

Clitoral Stimulation

You can use your hands, fingers, knuckles, a shower head, running water, vibrators, rubbing up against an object, anything that will stimulate the clitoris. The clitoris is the one organ on our bodies that is purely for sexual pleasure. It is the spot. Women are very excited by stimulation of the gspot, but some women are unable to orgasm unless they receive some sort of clitoral stimulation. And some women can not receive any clitoral stimulation until she is well aroused, because it is so sensitive. And then others just find clitoral stimulation irritating. And there are many ways to stimulate the clitoris.

By using your fingers or hand, you can rub, stroke or pinch the actual clitoris. You can also rub the area around the clitoris. One good move that I like to do is grab the skin around the clit and rub it together. This kind of indirectly stimulates the clit. The clit is kind of like a small penis, although much more sensitive. So you can grab it and stroke it, just like you would a penis. Just make sure you're well lubricated because rubbing the vagina or clitoris raw is not fun...I know from experience.

The all important shower massager head can be wonderful too. The shower head where you can adjust the stream of water, a steady, gentle stream and then a more powerful jet spray can be quite exciting. In fact, I’m getting excited just thinking about it. Just be careful to not send strong streams of water into the vagina for a very long period of time because it can cause air embolism. And if you're in the tub don't be afraid to get slide down and get your naughty bits under the running faucet, that can be really fun too!

I love sex toys!!! I would have to say a majority of my sexual encounters and masturbation sessions involve a toy of some kind. They just add that little extra to sex that makes it so much fun. My abosolute favorite toy, the don't leave home without it, is the Hitachi Magic Wand. It's not the only vibe I use, I have many different vibrators for different days and different moods, but it is one that I grab often.

Holding a vibrator up against your clit is the way to feel the maximum amount of vibrations. But since clits can be extremely sensitive to that, you can also hold the vibrator around the general area, the vulva, the pubic bone, the anus, the area between the vagina and anus. I have also found that the lower end of the vaginal opening is very sensitive to vibrations as well. If the vibrations are too strong, just put a towel or washcloth between you and the vibrator/massager and that will lessen the intensity as well. I have also, at times, put my index finger over my clit and held the vibrator on my finger. That seems to subdue the vibrations nicely.

G-Spot Stimulation

There are many toys out there that are specifically made to locate and stimulate the g-spot. I really like the Patchy Paul II Green 8" Vibrator. This g-spot vibrator from Fun Factory Toys is made of silicone which means it's very easy to clean and sanitize. The textured shaft plus the strong, smooth vibrations provide great g-spot stimulation. I couldn't believe how the strong the vibrations were and how quiet the motor actually was. Another plus is that the Patchy Paul II is waterproof, so you can play in the shower. It's also such a fun looking vibe.

So by using a dildo vibrator with some girth, like good old Patchy Paul, you will also get that added feeling of fullness in your vagina, which completes the whole experience. Although, if you can locate your g-spot and can manipulate it and stimulate it with your fingers to your pleasure, then all the better. Many women find it easier though to use some kind of toy.

Anal Stimulation

The anus is a very sensitive area of the body. It holds a lot of tension and can be associated with a lot of misery, but when given a little bit of TLC (tender loving care), it can bring you to a wonderful place. You can explore the area with your fingers, just rubbing or tickling the area, or use small insertable anal toys. If you're looking for something that's not too large, the Big Flirt should do the trick. I'm not one that can stick a big, bulbous butt plug in my precious bottom with ease. I have found that the slim tip that slowly expands allows for easy and comfortable insertion. It's not too much too soon, which is where other plugs fail miserably with me. I like to take my time with it because it feels really good. Since the Big Flirt is made of silicone is it's very easy to sanitize by putting in the top rack of your dishwasher or tossing in boiling water. Although I'm always clean down there when I engage in any kind of anal play, I prefer to use the black plug...I like dark colored anal toys.

Just make sure that whenever you insert a toy, finger, etc. into your anus that you have plenty of lubrication and make sure whatever toy you use has a flared base on one end of it!

Vaginal Stimulation

And last but not least, there’s always just pure penetration for the feeling of penetration. There are what seems to be a massive amount of dildos and vibrating dildos on the market. These are great for the times when you don’t want anything fancy, but still want some pleasure. These dildos come with no fancy attachments, it’s just a dildo to penetrate yourself with. I love the Dichroic Wrapped G-Spot Glass Dildo, from Phallix. This glass dildo is not only gorgeous...but it gives a very divine feeling of fulfillment with its large head and it will last you a lifetime. And if your fingers or hands feel good too, than go for it! To learn more about glass dildos, be sure to check out my glass dildos guide.

You can also really treat to yourself to one of those multi-stimulation dildo/vibrators like the famous Jack Rabbit. This vibrator provides simulataneous vaginal penetration, g-spot stimulation and clitoral stimulation all in one toy and at the same time!

I have recently tried the Sutera Xtreme Flutter Vibrator...wow, there is so much going happening with this one, I almost couldn't handle it. It offers the same features as the Jack Rabbit, g-spot stimulation from rotating shaft, pearls inside shaft stimulate the vaginal opening and the tip of the clitoral stimulator gets the clitoris all worked up...but now there's an added bonus. This one has wings on the petruding clitoral stimulator. These nubs vibrate against the vulva, causing more divine stimulation. I thought it would be just too much, but it all worked in harmony for me. Many women swear by these kinds of vibrators because they do give a woman just about all the stimulation she can handle during masturbation.

Breasts

Let’s not forget about them. Touching, rubbing, fondling and even attaching nipple clamps can be very exciting. If you’re breasts are large enough, try licking your nipples yourself. This can be extremely pleasurable. The breasts are a wonderful erogenous zone that should not be ignored during any type of sex play.

There is no right way to do it. You don’t even have to get naked. Just relax and explore your body and see what feels good. For even more ideas, I recommend Marilyn Chambers Guide to Masturbation. You can watch it in our online theater or purchase the DVD. You'll learn everything from how to use your fingers to how to use various vibrators like the pocket rocket and the rabbit vibrators.

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