How to Give a Blowjob Like a Pro

by Ann Andriani - All Sex Guide

So, you’re interested in getting some instruction on how to give a BJ. It is definitely a learned talent. When you give your first blow-job, it is quite a nerve racking experience. You don’t want to suck too hard or accidentally bite the penis, and you want it to appear as though you’re a pro. Well, I can tell you from experience, I’ve been giving blow-jobs to the same man for 12 years now, and just this past year, I must say I’ve really mastered a technique. I have, over the 12 years, had a technique, but wasn’t secure in knowing, "Hey I give good head." Now that sounds ridiculous right? Nope, there are many women out there who are not sure if what they’re doing is right, not that there’s a right or wrong, but are unsure if they’re lover is really enjoying their technique.

There are also women out there that have no desire, "to put that thing in their mouth!" (I’ve actually heard that from other women.) That is an absurd thought. Most women that I’ve spoken to that have such an opinion believe that because of sanitary reasons. Some have said, "It’s just not sanitary." And to those I state the simple fact that your mouth has millions more germs than a clean penis. In fact, all the pre ejaculate, cleans out the penis, so the penis is cleaner than your mouth. So now that we’ve cleared that up, we can move on.

One major concern out there is that it won’t taste or smell good.

One easy way to avoid that is to shower or bathe before you get started. I’m not saying to tell your man that he sticks. But the truth is, just like women, men will smell a little more when they haven’t cleansed in a while. It’s a simple fact of life. So have fun with the shower or bath. But if that’s not possible, or if you still don’t like the taste, try some flavored lubricants. Lube is always well appreciated, the more slippery the penis is, the happier it will be! If you don't want the goopiness of lube, you can now buy a flavored spray. Lick Me Sprays are easily sprayed on to the penis and you get a light and tasty treat. There are also flavored condoms, that way, you’re not even wrapping your mouth around the penis, you’re wrapping it around the penis’ covering.

Another concern is swallowing the ejaculate.

This can sometimes be a major issue. I will be honest, I in now way shape or form like to swallow cum. I admire those women that can and like to. Sometimes I wish I can do it for my man, and I’ve been with him for 12 years! I just don’t like the consistency. I can’t swallow what feels like a big glob of goop. And if you feel the same way, that’s fine. The point of adult play is for all involved to have fun. Your man should not pressure you to swallow. I know some men feel that it completes lovemaking or that if you don’t swallow you’re not really serious. This is something that should be discussed if there’s any problems or concerns. You should not be pressured to swallow. And if you don’t than still make it exciting when he does cum. Rub it all over your breasts, or just as he’s about to cum, let him finish by jerking off and spewing on your ass. Find out what you’re man likes. And enjoy yourself. Enthusiasm is the key. Men are very excited by a woman who really enjoys pleasuring him.

So here are some tips to give good head.

  • Look into his eyes, while sucking his cock. This is the #1 piece of advice I can give. It brings you onto a new level. And men love to watch!

  • If you’re not using lubricant, make sure he’s well lubed. Make sure your tongue is really wet and lick the entire shaft of his penis.

  • To get your man excited, take his penis out of his pants or get him naked, and run your fingers very gently over the underside of his cock.

  • If he’s not totally hard, just start to lick his cock and take it gently in your mouth because just like women, some men take a little while to get excited too.

  • Breathe on his cock and blow gently with your hot breath.

  • Gently massage his balls. Don’t squeeze, the testicles are very sensitive.

  • Lick his balls or try this. Put both of his balls in your mouth. Use one hand to circle the top of the sac, and gently pull it down to the bring the balls together into a neat swallow able package. (He should probably be standing up for this) Make sure you cover your teeth with your lips and use your tongue to give his balls a good lapping.

  • Don’t be afraid to use your hands on the penis too, giving good head involves using all your resources to make the experience exciting for your partner.

A major blow job issue is deep throating.

Honestly, everyone is different. Some people have a more sensitive gag reflex than others. Not everyone can overcome that and if you can’t, make up for it by using your hands. Whatever part of the penis you can’t take into your mouth, wrap your hand (s) around it and simultaneously with your mouth, move you’re hand (s) up and down. This way it will feel as though you’re taking in the whole penis, even though you’re not. For eleven years, I couldn’t deep throat. I learned it by watching "Nina Hartley’s Guide to Sex Toys." (read a detailed review) It sounds strange, but there is this one woman on there that was giving her man head, and she would take in as much as she could and then pump it on the back of her throat. It’s hard to explain, but somehow after I saw that, it gave me a clue about deep throating and I’ve been able to do it ever since. Although it did take practice. There is also a new video available that teaches you how to deep throat. If that's something you really want to do, then you should check out How to Perform Deep Throat. I'm not saying this is a cinematic masterpiece or a great DVD, but there are very few instructional DVDs that really explain how to deep throat...In fact, I don't think there are any currently. For $4.99 you may get a better idea of how to have this ability.

You take the penis as far as you can without choking, then close your eyes and concentrate, SLOWLY taking each quarter inch, telling yourself you won’t choke until you take it all in. Once you have the ability you’ll be able to do it as slow or as fast as you want. Just don’t do it fast the first time, because you most definitely will gag and gag badly.

Another technique I learned from Nina Hartley is to use a toy on your man like the Senso Lips. I know it looks a little strange, but believe me, the toy feels really good for him and you don't have to worry about deep throating. If you use a flavored lube, you can use the Senso Lips on his penis, the lips side down and when he penis comes out the other end, you can take it into your mouth and even suck it in. I've used this technique for years with really great results. Thanks Nina!

  • And remember, giving a blow-job is not just wrapping your mouth around the penis and moving up and down. While his penis is in your mouth, use your tongue to stimulate the head.

  • Switch between mouthing it and licking it.

  • Don’t just work the cock, it does belong to a human being. It is also important to look up and deeply kiss your man.

  • Tell him how much you love sucking his cock. Tell him how sweet he tastes. Men love women that can talk dirty. (Don’t worry I will cover the dirty talk in another article.)

  • Tease him by giving his cock a complete tongue bath first, until he can’t stand it anymore. Then take it into your mouth.

  • Get your man naked and kiss and lick all the areas around his penis, don’t touch it. Lick and kiss his inner thighs. Then lick and kiss his balls. By that time he should be dripping wet, then start to go down on him.

  • Simulate actual intercourse, lubricate his cock thoroughly, then with your hands slowly jerk him off but when your hand reaches the bottom of the shaft, take it into your mouth, but cover your teeth with your lips and keep the opening firm, so it feels like his penis is entering a tight vagina.

  • Besides mouthing the cock, suck it. Deep sucks and quick little teasing ones, feel great too.

  • While giving head rub the area, just behind his balls. Even though it’s close to his anus, it does give a good sensation.

  • If you’re jerking your man off too, don’t just pull on his penis like you’re milking a cow. As you run your hands up and down his penis, squeeze it a little, just jerk the head a little. Be sensual about it, don’t milk a cow.

I have written these tips in no particular order because there is no particular order to follow. These are just different ideas of things to do during fellatio. I have also found the Nina Hartley's Advanced Guide to Oral Sex (watch online) to be very helpful in not only techniques, but what parts of the penis and balls are most sensitive. These videos are great to view with your lover. That way you can try the different techniques on him and he can try different techniques on you. And if you want to watch it alone, it’s not hard-core pornography, it’s very instructional and entertaining. Also, any porn flicks can be instructional too, but just remember, there are many edits. That’s why I like Nina’s videos, because she explains things and you also hear from the men what they like.

Now if you're not into watching videos, Sadie Allison has recently come out with a terrific guide on pleasuring the penis, Tickle His Pickle! Your Hands-On Guide to Penis Pleasing . That's all it is, different tips and techniques that will bring manual and oral penis pleasuring skills to new heights, but in a fun, step by step, instructional manner. There's also Violet Blue's The Ultimate Guide to Fellatio that will teach you everything you need to know as well. It doesn't matter which one you get. They both have great stuff in them. If you're looking for quick tips and instruction Tickle His Pickle is the way to go, but if you want more detailed information, then Violet Blue's book is for you.

So these are my instructions on how to give a Bj. And to wrap this up, I just want to say, that you should always use different techniques when giving head. Keep trying new things and don’t make it a project for you to do. The more you enjoy giving head, the more your man will enjoy the head you’re giving.

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See Also:

  • How to be a Great Lover by Lou Paget, a great book that gives you 21 detailed techniques with illustrations on how to pleasure the penis...It's wonderful!
  • Tristan Taormino's Expert Guide To Oral Sex 2: Fellatio
  • Is swallowing ejaculate an issue? Come talk about it over at AllSexAdvice.com.