Mutual Masturbation

By Ann Andriani All Sex Guide

Mutual masturbation is seen as a pretty taboo act to engage in with someone else, since generally masturbation is seen as a bad thing to do. And if you did masturbate with someone else, it would be admitting that you do it. And masturbation is something to be done in private, right? WRONG!

Mutual masturbation can be an incredibly exciting sexual encounter between two, or even more, people. Sharing this with your partner can be a great way for your partner to learn how you like to be touched and stimulated. By watching my boyfriend, I have learned how he likes his penis stroked. It’s a very slow and steady stroking, with a little caressing of the head of the penis as well. I have also learned that when he’s about to climax, a more tighter grasp and faster stroking is necessary, but do not touch the head. Touching the head can ruin it all. He has also learned by watching me, I like my outer lips rubbed in a circular motion, as opposed to just up and down and indirect clitoral stimulation in the beginning and once I’m well aroused, direct clitoral stimulation is a must.

The Show

It can also be very visually exciting, to watch your partner receiving the ultimate pleasure. I say it’s the ultimate pleasure because only your partner knows what he/she likes best. It brings out the voyeur in us and everyone is a little bit of a voyeur to some extent.

Everyone likes to put on a show at one time or another, and this is the best way to do it. There’s no better way to feel sexy than pleasing yourself in front of your partner. Make a whole show of it too, get all dressed up and strip for your lover, then get down and dirty with yourself. Be honest with your excitement, if what you’re doing feels really good, let him/her know. Genuine excitement can be the ultimate turn on. I love to do it when my boyfriend is driving, because it’s such a big tease. He so wants me, but he can’t have me.........unless he pulls over to the side of the road and jumps my bones. But most of the time, I won’t let him. He can’t have me till we get home. What a great tease!

Safety

It’s also a very exciting form of safe sex. There really isn’t any exchange in dangerous bodily fluids, unless you’re sharing toys. Then make sure that a new barrier, like a condom, is put on from one person to the next.

You don’t have to worry about what to do, because you’re partner is doing what he/she likes, so it’s a very relaxing activity, no performance anxiety.

Add to Your Sex Life

You can pleasure yourself, while your lover is stimulating another part of your body. While your lover is stimulating you, you can put your hand over his/hers and go through the motions with them and if all goes well, he/she will allow you to do it.As you are masturbating your lover, masturbate yourself.Or simply discuss the issue with your lover and see if it’s something he/she is interested in doing. To make the discussion much easier, you can watch Nina Hartley's Guide to Masturbation together. You'll get great tips and techniques on how to get the most out of your mutual masturbatory experience.

This is a very intimate activity when you involve your lover in your secret activity. It can be very exciting, so please don’t keep it hidden away as a private activity, share it with the one you love or lust.

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