How to introduce adult movies to your girlfriend/spouse

by Ann Andriani - All Sex Guide

Watching adult videos is very natural. It’s easy to watch these videos with your friends, but when it comes to including your woman, some are unsure. This is a very sensitive area in some relationships. Some women find it a disgusting exploitation of women and this is quite a hurdle to overcome. The important thing is to discuss your viewing pleasure with your lover.

Make sure she understands why you’re viewing these videos. Some women feel that if her boyfriend/husband feels the need to watch these movies, they are unsatisfied sexually. It is up to you to explain to her that that is not the case, if it isn’t.

Introduce her to videos geared more toward woman

You may want to start out with something more on the erotic side, instead of pure sex. Wicked Pictures has recently come out with some great titles for couples.  They're like real movies with good storylines, great costuming, great sets, (we're talking big budget movies, for the adult industry) but they have some of the hottest sex scenes out there today. So you and your lover can actually get into the story and you're both already way too involved by the time the sex scene comes in.  It's a smooth transition. And the men in these movies are attractive as well, giving the woman attractive people to look at. Some of our favorites are: Dream quest, Flashpoint, 5 Rooms, Island Fever and Bliss.  

Also, Andrew Blake has several good titles that are a good watch for couples.  His movies are very sexy and sensual.  They contain some really hot hardcore sex, but it is all presented in a softcore manner.   Our favorites are House of Dreams and Paris Chic.

Candida Royalle and Femme Productions has a long list of movie titles that are geared more towards women. While there is sex in these movies for you to enjoy, there’s also a bit of a story line for a woman to get involved in. Candida Royalle's claim to fame is also that she tries to use some more real looking women in her films.  They are more softcore and soap opera like.

Patience, Patience, Patience

Something like this does require patience on your part. There’s a lot of insecurities and morality issues a woman has to overcome when faced with this. The more patient you are with her, the more accepting she’ll be. In fact, after watching a few soft-core videos, she may actually want to view something a little more hard-core. But keep in mind that communication with your partner is vital in the success of this transition. Ask her what she liked and disliked in the movie. Let her know that whatever arouses her, in these films, is okay. And make sure that it really is okay with you. If she tells you she was really aroused by the naked women or by the men in the film, how will you feel? I’m sure she’ll also want to know what you liked and if you liked the women in the film more than her. Be sensitive with your answers, but be honest, remember you’re introducing her to your interest.

Try to get cozy while watching the movie

Don’t just watch the movie. Cuddle up to your lover, caress her, kiss her while the movie is on. Let her know that telling you what she likes is a big turn on. Make the movie just something on TV in the background while you make love to your woman. Try to engage in erotic talk with your partner. This isn’t just a regular movie, so it is not to be viewed that way. But don’t push her too much. It is up to you to read how she is with it. But giving her some loving while it’s on, shows that you’re not interested in the women in the movie. Be very attentive to her.

It sounds like an awful lot but......

If this is something that’s really important for you to share with your partner, than it will be worth all the rewards in the end. There are thousands of couples that watch and are aroused by watching adult videos together. But it’s just one stimulant in there sex life. If these videos are the be all and end all of your existence, then you should probably be with a woman who really enjoys them. Keep in mind that for a relationship to be happy and healthy, it needs communication and variety.

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