There is a large misconception that anal sex is only enjoyed by gay men. As a result, many heterosexual men who are curious or knows he desires anal play, may be depriving himself out of fear that others will think that he must really be gay or have homosexual tendencies. This type of thinking could not be further from the truth!
Millions of heterosexual women and men love to partake in anal play. By anal play, I mean rimming, having a finger up the ass while you’re getting a blowjob, inserting butt plugs, dildos, holding a vibrator around the opening, or rubbing the opening with your finger. And this area of the body should not be ignored when one is indulging. This is a very sensitive area, that when given the proper attention, can bring one to a new world of ecstasy.
Now, you must be careful when partaking in such an activity, because the membranes that line the anal cavity are so very delicate. Make sure that the area is well lubricated. A special product designed for anal use is Uranus Anal Lube by Wet. It’s thicker than regular water based lube so it will stay around longer.
Now, for you anal virgins, you don’t need to penetrate on the first go round. Use your fingers to massage, rub and tickle the area. The key is to start slow, be patient and try to relax. Remember this is supposed to be an enjoyable activity. Communication is absolutely essential with your partner. Let him or her know what feels good and when he or she can go further.
Once you reach a comfortable point, you may try a little penetration. If you use your fingers, please make sure that you take all safe sex precautions: finger cots, latex gloves, etc. If you know your partner well and don’t feel there’s a need, then make sure your fingernails are well groomed and free from any rough edges that may scrape or cut this delicate anal lining.
The best things to use, and the safest for the inexperienced, are the many rubber insertion devices that are made for this purpose. There are many kits for beginners. Oh, just another safety note. If you decide to use a device not specifically meant for anal penetration, make sure it has a wide end on it so that the object can’t slip into the entire cavity. (Unfortunately, it has been known to happen.) Be smart, use common sense and you’ll be okay.
I can’t stress the importance of communicating this desire with your partner. You never know, maybe your partner is just as interested as you and you’ll both be on your way to a new world of sexual encounters. And for all those who have been approached with the situation and have been turned away by it, I can guarantee it’s been out of ignorance. So many people out there believe it is taboo to partake in such an act. I hope this article has helped you in understanding what a wonderful addition anal play can be to your sex life. Remember sex is even more fun when it’s really dirty!